By Beth Ricanati, M.D. for YouBeauty.com


'Tis the season to be jolly, right? Long lines in your favorite store, difficulty finding parking at the mall, cold weather. Jolly indeed. If you find yourself in the middle of your holiday errands and feeling less than in the spirit, try these simple, subtle strategies to relieve tension in seconds flat.


1. Breathe

breathing


I know what you're thinking. I'm breathing all the time. Well, yes, of course you're breathing, but you're probably not breathing as deeply or effectively as you can, and that can make a ton of difference when you're under pressure.


Researchers at Harvard have documented what has long been known anecdotally: that deep breathing has a positive impact on stress. To get the benefits of a good, deep breath, breathe in slowly through your nose, then breathe out (even more slowly) through your mouth. At first, try to do this for just a minute several times a day. Then, if you can (without stressing yourself out!), work your way up to a few minutes of deep breathing at a time. The most important thing is to keep doing it! Remembering to trade your automatic everyday breathing for mindful deep breathing can be challenging, especially when you've got a million other things on your mind. But it's worth it. The more you take a moment to breathe, the less stress you'll feel.


2. Remember Your Shoulders

shoulders


Standing in line, waiting to purchase your gifts, you can practice stress management on the down low. Nobody else in line need know. Just drop your shoulders. When you're stressed, you are likely to tense up your shoulders without even realizing it, and that can contribute to stress headaches. Whether or not you think you're shrugging your shoulders, make a conscious effort to put as much space between your ears and your shoulders. You'll probably be surprised at how much you can lower your shoulders, and you'll instantly feel calmer.


In addition, as the day goes on, be sure to switch your bags from shoulder to shoulder. Most of us carry our bags on the same shoulder every day, and now add all of the holiday packages and you can start to see how this may cause sore, stiff and tense shoulders, adding to your overall feeling of stress.


3. Do Something For Someone You Don't Know

helping someone


So many of us are so busy checking off our gift lists. Whether it's something for a family member, a friend, a teacher or a colleague at work, you're probably always on the lookout for an expectant someone in your life. While you're at it, do something spontaneous and unplanned for someone you don't know this holiday season. Maybe it's dropping some loose change in the Salvation Army bucket, donating to a charity you normally don't support, or spending a mealtime helping out at a soup kitchen. Whatever you do, you're likely to experience what's often called a "helper's high[1] ." Watch how great you'll feel when you take a moment for someone else, and how your stress seems to magically melt away.


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    A recent study in the <em>International Journal of Workplace Health Management</em> showed that <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/01/bringing-dog-to-work-stress_n_1391420.html" target="_hplink">bringing your dog to work</a> could help to lower office stress and boost employee satisfaction.

    "Pet presence may serve as a low-cost, wellness intervention readily available to many organizations and may enhance organizational satisfaction and perceptions of support," study researcher Randolph T. Barker, Ph.D., a professor of management at Virginia Commonwealth University, said in a statement. "Of course, it is important to have policies in place to ensure only friendly, clean and well-behaved pets are present in the workplace."

    The study, which looked at the pet-friendly company Replacements, Ltd., showed that employees who brought their dogs in to work experienced <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/01/bringing-dog-to-work-stress_n_1391420.html" target="_hplink">decreases in stress</a> throughout the work day. Meanwhile, self-reported stress <em>increased</em> for people who didn't bring their dogs, and for those who don't have dogs.




  • Laugh It Up


    If you're feeling particularly stressed, perhaps it's time to take a quick YouTube break. A small 1989 study in the <em>American Journal of the Medical Sciences</em> showed that<a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2556917" target="_hplink"> "mirthful laughter"</a> is linked with lower blood levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

    The Mayo Clinic reported that laughter also promotes <a href="http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress-relief/SR00034" target="_hplink">endorphin release</a> in the brain and relaxes the muscles, which are all key for stress relief.




  • Grab A Shovel And Some Seeds


    Caregiving is extremely stressful, but a 2008 survey showed that gardening may help to reduce stress among caregivers. The survey, by BHG.com, showed that 60 percent of caregivers feel <a href="http://www.alz.org/national/documents/release_110308_garden.pdf" target="_hplink">relaxed when they garden</a>, the Alzheimer's Association reported.

    And, Health.com reported on a Netherlands study, suggesting that gardening can help to <a href="http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20507878_2,00.html" target="_hplink">lower cortisol levels</a> and boost mood among people who had just finished a stressful task. That's because doing something that requires "involuntary attention" -- like sitting back and enjoying nature -- helps to replenish ourselves, Health.com reported.




  • Crack Open A Book


    Just <a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/5070874/Reading-can-help-reduce-stress.html" target="_hplink">six minutes of reading</a> is enough to help you de-stress, the <em>Telegraph</em> reported.

    The study, which was sponsored by Galaxy chocolate, suggested that <a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/5070874/Reading-can-help-reduce-stress.html" target="_hplink">reading was linked with a slower heart rate</a> and muscle relaxation. Drinking tea or coffee, listening to music and taking a walk also seemed to help lower stress, according to the <em>Telegraph</em>.




  • Call Mom


    Even if she's not there in person, a call to mom can help lower stress.

    <em>Scientific American</em> reported on a study in the journal <em>Proceedings of the Royal Society B</em> showing that young girls who <a href="http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/2010/05/11/a-phone-call-from-mom-reduces-stress-as-well-as-a-hug/" target="_hplink">talked to their mothers on the phone</a> after completing stressful tasks had decreased cortisol (the stress hormone) in their saliva, and increased oxytocin levels (the bonding hormone).

    The girls who talked to their mothers on the phone had <a href="http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/2010/05/11/a-phone-call-from-mom-reduces-stress-as-well-as-a-hug/" target="_hplink">decreased cortisol</a> and increased oxytocin levels compared with young girls who weren't allowed to contact their mothers at all, <em>Scientific American</em> reported -- girls who hugged their moms in person had a similar reaction to the phone group.




  • Eat Some Chocolate


    Dark chocolate doesn't only have health benefits for the heart -- eating it can also help to <a href="http://www.livescience.com/7974-chocolate-reduces-stress-study-finds.html" target="_hplink">lower stress</a>.

    LiveScience reported on a study illustrating that eating 1.4 ounces of <a href="http://www.livescience.com/7974-chocolate-reduces-stress-study-finds.html" target="_hplink">dark chocolate</a> a day for a two-week period is linked with decreased levels of the stress hormone cortisol. That study was published in 2009 in the journal <em>Proteome Research</em>.

    (But of course, chocolate still contains sugar and lots of calories, so make sure you're eating the chocolate in moderation!)




  • Gossip


    Gossip may not be viewed as socially "good," but it <em>might</em> have benefits in relieving stress.

    Researchers from the University of California, Berkeley, found that <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/17/gossip-stress-exploitation-heart-rate_n_1211207.html" target="_hplink">gossiping can actually lower stress</a>, stop exploitation of others and police others' bad behavior.

    "Spreading information about the person whom they had seen behave badly tended to <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/17/gossip-stress-exploitation-heart-rate_n_1211207.html" target="_hplink">make people feel better</a>, quieting the frustration that drove their gossip," study researcher Robb Willer, a social psychologist at UC Berkeley, said in a statement. Willer's research was published this year in the <em>Journal of Personality and Social Psychology</em>.

    So if something's bothering you, go ahead and gab -- but just make sure you move on so you don't dwell on the negative emotions!




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